In our society, search and selection of marriage partners for boys and girls had been by the parents or the head of the family. Although selection today is done jointly by the family the search operations are still handled by the parents. There is nothing wrong if the parents help their children in finding suitable matches for them but the problem lies in their irrational thinking and parameters upon which they try to select the matches. Even the highly educated parents don’t try to analyze the authenticity and relevance even the harmful effects of their criterion of selection of match.
 

1. What Do Parents Look For In A Good Match? 

• Matching of horoscopes
• The external appearance of the boy or girl
• The economic status of the family
• Education and job security of the boy
• Home-making skills of the girl
   

2. What Boys Find Attractive In Girls?

• Long hair,
• Good complexion,
• A tall and slim body,
• A fair skin,
• Attractive eyes,
• Full breasts,
• A pleasing smile,
• A sweet giggle,
• Being easy to talk to etc.
   

3. What Girls Find Attractive In Boys 

• Good height,
• A good physique,
• Broad shoulders,
• Physical strength,
• Good looks,
• A sense of humour,
• Good dress sense etc.
   

4. Why people are not getting matches for marriage?

5. Why disputes are rising among newlyweds?

6. Why the divorce rate is increasing?

7. Why youngsters can’t maintain harmony in relationship?

8. Are their expectations of partner too high to be met?

9. Do the problems arise due to wrong selection of marriage partner?

10. Are the parents responsible for conflicts between couples?

11. Why parents of the boy today are comparatively more anxious about the               marriage of their son and his life ahead?

12. Can there be any perfect parameters of match selection?

13. How to prepare for marriage?

Logical answers to these and other such questions are what is called Pre-marital Counselling. Pre-marital Counselling is nothing else but the preparation for marriage which comprises an understanding of life, self, family, society, nature and their interrelatedness. The reason behind most of our day to day problems is only the LACK OF LIFE EDUCATION which our education system does not provide. Unlike other counsellors, we don’t provide only tips to handle various situations rather educate and make one understand oneself, one’s relation with one’s family, society and nature and their interdependence as well as universal traits, role and responsibilities, privileges and limitations of a human being.