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Traditionally, in India, a wedding is a big event. Everybody looks forward to it. Young boys and girls are anxious to get married. Their parents are anxious to get them married off, and relatives and friends look forward to the celebrations. The time, effort, and money spent on wedding preparation are amazing. There are negotiations between the two marriage parties about dowries, gifts, and wedding expenses. Horoscopes of would-be bride and groom are matched for checking their compatibility. There are discussions about the auspicious time and date for the wedding, the number of guests to be invited and the various customs and rituals to be followed. It is a busy and important time for the whole family. At a wedding, a family shows off its guests, shows off its wealth, and shows off the bride and the groom. The status of the family is based on the display at the wedding. While all these preparations are made for the wedding and celebrations, comparatively little or nothing is done to prepare the bride and the groom for living their lives as married partners. There is hardly any information given on sexuality; and the little that the groom and bride-to-be may receive is inadequate and inaccurate. No guidelines are given on building up a relationship, forming a compatible partnership, coping with conflicts, or where to turn for help when needed. Parents and educational institutions are equally guilty of neglecting the most practical aspects of enlightened education, i.e. guidance and instructions for living a happy and harmonious life. A marriage, even at the best of times, experiences many challenges. Today, with rapid social and economic changes, it faces greater pressures. More and more marriages are experiencing strife and legal separations and divorces are on the increase. The pain and anguish caused by divorce and marital strife prove to be extremely costly to society in both human and financial terms. In this context, pre-marital counselling has a very important role to play.
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